In reading a comment on Thinking Girl’s blog about the difference between women’s and men’s acceptable approaches to turning interested parties down, I was reminded of a story my parents told me about when they were dating in college (ca. 1970) that perfectly illustrates the point:


M was being harassed by Some Unwelcome Guy (SUG), and she’d tried numerous times to get SUG to Leave Her the Hell Alone. D said to her: “Well, why don’t you just tell him to fuck off?”

To which M’s reply: “What???!!!! I can’t tell him that!!!!”


This story is usually used to illustrate my mom’s relative innocence in college; I think it displays the patriarchy-approved gender-appropriate methods of Turning Someone Down quite effectively.


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